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We get a lot of visitors to PersistentIllusion who no longer love their husbands or wives. Readers either find their way to
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The million dollar question is, how can you fall in love? Again?
1. What’s love got to do with it? Love is a symptom of your relationship. Trying to fix a symptom still leaves the problem to infect the rest of your life.
So stop obsessing over the fact that you don’t love your spouse anymore. It only means something because it means that you need to do something about your relationship. Stat!
2. Got fun? When is the last time you had some fun with your Beloved? Laughed together? Enjoyed each other’s company?
All too often, your husband or wife becomes the obstacle in your life instead of the person who laughs at the obstacles with you.
Kids are a hassle. They will, especially as infants, make you wish that you had never had sex. But kids are also a lot of fun…and they’re funny. You always love your kids.
Coincidence? You won’t know until you try.
3. Spend less time together. This seems counterintuitive, I know, but it is not spending time together that helps your relationship. It is spending quality time together. Find things to do outside of your partnership. When you do spend time together, you will have things to talk about.
Don’t be that couple that sits in front of the tv for three hours without talking.
And just to play it safe, spend time with people of the same sex. You are vulnerable to ‘opening’ yourself up to someone else and falling in love with them instead. If you want to fix your relationship, stay FAR AWAY from anyone of the opposite sex.
4. Vacation. Treat yourself to a vacation. A lot of couples feel selfish and irresponsible for spending money on themselves. They could go a decade without going on a vacation.
What’s more expensive? A $2,000 trip to Universal’s Islands of Adventure in Orlando; or a heart wrenching, all assets splitting, rancorous divorce?
Hawaii, here we come.
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